Q of the Day

The average person moves at least 13 times in a lifetime....how many times have you moved?

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Master your Life

Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands.

Once you decide to be at the level of choice,you take responsibility for your life and gain control of it.

If you don't run your own life, someone else will.

You're in control of your life to the degree that you make the decisions.

If you let others make decisions for you, you have no control.

When you control the decisions, you control the actions.

Take charge of your life.

You don't have to ask permission of other people.

Don't give someone veto power over your life.

If not you, then who?
If not now, then when?

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Q of the Day

What is a quote that you live by?

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Positivity!

You can fill the darkest day with hope, just by the way you decide to look at it. Anger, frustration, and dismay are not the result of your circumstances -- they are the result of your reaction to circumstances.

Your situation may indeed be difficult. The obstacles may appear to be insurmountable. It may seem that the whole world is against you. Yet that is all the more reason to look up, to look ahead, to find something positive you can grab on to. You may have every reason to despair, yet despair will only keep you down. Is that what you really want?

You control your reactions. You're in complete control of the way you interact with the world around you. Any particular circumstance can be good news or bad news, depending on what you make of it. Everything that holds you back, has the potential to move you ahead.

Your life is overflowing with possibilities, if only you will decide to live them.

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Q of the Day

Which fairy tale character do you think you are most like and why?

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knowing gets you half way through

Know that what you're doing is right, and nothing can stop you. Believe in the value of your effort, and you have the courage to do whatever it takes to get the job done.

When you know you're on the right track, nothing anyone says can dissuade you. Every circumstance becomes an opportunity. Time becomes your friend, as every moment leads you closer to the inevitable attainment of your worthy purpose.

The time you take, and the effort you spend, to develop an unshakable belief in the value of your work, will pay huge dividends in the commitment, resilience, persistence, creativity, focus and determination it brings you.

Believe in what you do, and do what you believe in doing. And it will happen.

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Q of the Day

What is your most unusual interest? Is it a secret?

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understanding hostility!

The natural reaction to hostility is... hostility. Yet much of the hostility we encounter is due to ignorance and misunderstanding. Often times, when each side develops a better understanding of the other, there is no more cause for anger.

The next time you're confronted with hostility, take the time to explain yourself -- clearly, patiently, sincerely, and without bitterness or sarcasm. And put yourself in the other person's shoes. Endeavor to understand their perspective.

How you react to hostility is up to you. You can escalate the fight to the point where nobody wins. Or, you can seek to give, and to gain, understanding. Understanding serves to cool the anger. It can reveal common grounds for agreement and cooperation.

Yes, there are some people who just want to be angry, no matter what. But there are many others who just want to be understood.

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Q of the Day

What's your favorite day of the week and why?

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No Pain No Gain

Pain is a lesson waiting to be learned. And by paying heed to the lesson, we can transcend the pain.

If you touch a hot iron, it is painful. If you neglect to learn anything from the experience, the pain keeps coming back each time you touch the hot iron. When you learn the lesson that the pain has to teach, and avoid touching the hot iron, you never have to endure that pain again.

What can you learn from the pain in your life? In every pain there is a lesson. Sometimes it's a lesson of avoiding mistakes. Other times it is a lesson of learning to accept, value and triumph over the challenges we face.

Have you learned that you can't get something for nothing, or is your pain still trying to teach you that? Have you learned to live with purpose and focus, or are you still enduring the pain of learning that lesson? Free yourself from pain, by learning what it has to teach.

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Q of the day

What has been the hardest thing that you have had to overcome in your lifetime?

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Comfort often is uncomfortable

Comfort is simply what we're used to. The marathon runner is more comfortable running than he is sitting still, even though running is very demanding physical effort. The successful salesperson is more comfortable making calls, than making excuses.

The "couch potato" is more comfortable being uncomfortably overweight, than getting up and walking around the block a few times.

Much of what we consider comfortable, isn't even very pleasurable. In fact, it is often downright unpleasant. Yet it is what we're accustomed to, and that's why we cling to it.

Comfort is in the eye of the beholder. Commitment, focus and effective effort can be just as comfortable as laziness and indulgence. Is your desire for certain comforts holding you back? Then re-examine and re-define what you consider to be comfortable. Become comfortable doing the things that will move you in the direction of your dreams.

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Q of the Day

What is something you have you feel like you need to hide and why?

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Assumptions BLAH!

Remember, your assumptions are just that... assumptions. They can be very helpful. Yet they can also cloud your judgment. Don't get so comfortable with your assumptions that you forget about them. They have a powerful influence, and it's your job to make sure they're in line with reality.

Conditions change. The assumptions you developed when you were a child, probably no longer apply. Yet you may still be basing some decisions on them. Priorities change. The assumptions you depended on when you graduated from school, may no longer reflect what's important to you. The marketplace changes. The assumptions that led to last year's sales increase, may no longer be valid.

When you have a decision to make, remember to examine your assumptions. Think about how you've grown, and how you've changed. Don't base today's decisions on yesterday's assumptions.

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Q of the Day

If you could be one age for the rest of your life, which age would you choose?

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Be able to say yes

Think for a moment about your ideal job. What would you do if you could do anything? What would bring you as much money, or satisfaction, or professional fulfillment, or challenge as you could ever want?

If you were offered that ideal job right now, today -- would you be able to accept it? Would you be able to handle the responsibilities? Would you have the necessary skills, the knowledge, the contacts, the insight to succeed?

Would you be able to say yes to the opportunity of a lifetime, if it came along today? Opportunity, to be realized, takes more than willingness. It takes preparation. When you're prepared for opportunity, it comes to you in abundance.

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What begins your mind?

Your worries create their own fulfillment. But you don't have to worry about that, because you can let those worries go.

Your fears bring you closer toward whatever you fear. But do not fear such a scenario, because you have the ability to let those fears go.

Your thoughts do not end when you finish thinking them. They continue to echo through your life in ways you may not even realize.

So fill your mind with thoughts of gratitude for the abundance you already enjoy. That abundance will most certainly grow as a result.

When you feel doubt, or fear, or anger, or frustration, know that you can let it go just as surely as you can pull your hand away from a painful sensation. Keep your life focused on the goodness, on the positive possibilities and on your most treasured dreams.

What begins in your mind ends up in your life. Think continually of the way you most would like to be, and your reality will reliably fall in line.

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Q of the Day

What do you do when (you think) no one is looking?

:) be honest ok!

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are you convinced?

If you're having trouble taking action, it's probably because you haven't fully convinced yourself that it must be done. Once you truly convince yourself, you'll most certainly make it happen.

Perhaps you think it's something that is important. Yet there's a big difference between thinking it's important and knowing, without the least bit of doubt, that it must be done.

So if you're hesitant to take action, look within yourself for the reason why. Have the courage, and make the effort, to answer your own objections.

You may discover that you're not sincerely committed to achieving the results your actions would bring. And if that's the case, you can choose to either find that commitment or to move on to something else.

Your thoughts and actions are incredibly powerful. And to focus them in a particular direction, you must be absolutely convinced.

Convincing yourself is indeed a challenge, and that's as it should be. For when you truly convince yourself to do it, you have the power to make it so.

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Your true moment!

This day is too valuable to waste. The people in your life are too beautiful to ignore.

Take a moment to remember how fortunate you are to be you. Take a look around, with your eyes lovingly and enthusiastically open to the possibilities.

Most of what you fear does not even exist. Much of what you love is closer than you realize.

You are just one small step away from being on the path toward your most treasured dream. You are just one brief thought away from understanding the richness that is your life.

You have traveled a long way to be where you are. With every step you have gained something of real and lasting value.

Now is a day to move forward with more experience, knowledge and wisdom than ever before. Now is your moment to realize and fulfill the miracle that is your life.

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Read and React Immediately!

Look in the direction of what you think you cannot do, of what you've been reluctant to undertake. You'll see a pathway that leads to new levels of success and achievement.

You've already done all the comfortable and familiar things. To create new value, step out into new territory.

You've already successfully adjusted to countless new situations. You've already been able to move forward through all kinds of challenges.

Now is the time to make use of that ability again. Now is when you can boldly venture into new, valuable, productive, effective territory and raise yourself to an even higher level than before.

The fact that the challenges are daunting, serves to make the rewards that much greater. You have what it takes to meet those challenges and reach those rewards.

Open yourself to the opportunities of living richly and making significant, continuing contributions to your world. Follow the possibilities into a bright, new territory of achievement and value.

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Drop the pretense

One of the most painful types of conflict is also the easiest conflict to avoid. It is the conflict you have with yourself.

When the person inside is in conflict with the person you are on the outside, it drains your energy and damages your credibility. Yet in an instant, you can be rid of that conflict.

All you have to do is be completely honest about who you are. Drop the pretense, and you rid yourself of a heavy burden.

Stop pretending to be someone you're not. For even if you could manage to be convincing at it, you would gain nothing of real value.

That real value lives in the authentic person you are. In your sincere and deeply felt passions you will find life's most delightful and fulfilling treasures.

There's no need to live in conflict with yourself for even one moment longer. Let the true you shine through, and fulfill the wonderful possibilities that are uniquely yours.

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The Best Day Ever

A new day has dawned. And with it, countless new positive possibilities have been born.

Certainly there are difficulties and obstacles in your life and in your world. Yet they are always outnumbered by your blessings.

Focus today on those blessings. Give your attention and your awareness to what's right with life.

Those who wish to control you and to take advantage of you will seek to fill your thoughts with fear and discouragement. Yet there is really no reason for you to be fearful or discouraged.

For life is not what someone tells you it will be. Life is precisely what you make it.

By focusing on the good things, on the positive possibilities, on your blessings and opportunities, you can make life truly magnificent. A new day has dawned, and you can choose to make it the best day ever.

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Q of the Day

along with some motivation, I'd like to add a question.

if you are not comfortable and you think it is a bad idea, do let me know.

If you post it on your blog, just link it back here so I can visit!

Or you could even be anonymous as starting now I am enabling that option.

The choice is yours.

I just happen to love you too much.

**all smiles

READY... SET... GO!

Q. If you could hear what someone was thinking for a day, whose thoughts would you want to hear?

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Feel what it is to be you

Have the courage to feel. Feeling connects you with who you are.

Experience your own authentic feelings. There's nothing to be gained by hiding from your feelings or borrowing the feelings of others.

Your feelings will ask much of you. In return, they give you access to immense power that can be directed toward positive and meaningful purpose.

If you run from your true feelings, you will just end up making them stronger. And they will eventually catch up to you anyway.

Acknowledge your feelings, dive into them and explore their rich abundance. Certainly you will find some pain there, and yet if you are honest you will also find much joy.

Your capacity to feel opens the door to a whole universe of magnificent possibilities. In each moment, feel what it is to be you, and you'll work your way toward the best you can be.

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Interconnected!

Everything in your life has an influence and an interaction with everything else. Make an improvement in one area of your life, and many other areas will benefit.

Everything in your world is interconnected. Create value in one place, and that value casts its light in additional places as well.

Your positive thoughts and actions often have immediate and direct results. They also have indirect results that can continue far beyond the obvious.

A small kindness offered to just one person can end up benefiting countless others. The love you give will always, in ways that you may never even realize, come back to you.

Success and fulfillment do not occur in isolation. You'll receive no great benefit from being positive about only a few things if you take a negative approach in other areas.

Instead, focus all your awareness and intention in a positive, fulfilling direction. Then, all the many connections will organize in such a way as to move you quickly forward.

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Yours to Give

The way to be respected is to be respectful. The way to be heard is to listen.

What do you wish to experience? Give it to others, and you will surely find it appearing and growing stronger in your own life.

To make a positive impression, find the qualities that are positive and valuable about every person you meet. What you send is amplified through the lives of others and comes back to you without fail.

Every day is filled with opportunities to offer genuine and meaningful kindness. The more of those opportunities you follow and fulfill, the richer your life becomes.

Advantages built on brute force and deception will crumble quickly. Achievements built on kindness, respect, understanding and love will continue to grow in value and influence.

Give, and as you do you'll be able to give more and more. The life of your dreams is now yours to give, and to fully experience.

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Your Power to Choose

While your character is formed by your circumstances, your desires can shape those circumstances.

The one thing over which you have absolute control is your own thoughts.
It is this that puts you in a position to control your own destiny.

Nature is constantly at work around you.
Character and destiny are her handiwork.
She gives you love and hate, jealousy and reverence.
You have the power to choose which impulse you follow.

At any time you can decide to alter the course of your life.
No one can ever take that away from you.
You can do what you want to do and be who you want to be.

Your greatest power is the power to choose.

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Make yourself a Promise

"I will not die an unlived life.

I will not live in fear of falling or catching fire.

I choose to inhabit my days, to allow my living to open me, to make me less afraid, more accessible, to loosen my heart until it becomes a wing, a torch, a promise.

I choose to risk my significance; to live so that which comes to me as seed goes to the next as blossom and that which comes to me as blossom, goes on as fruit."

Dawna Markova

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Begin with a Beginning

"This is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever; in its place is something that you have left behind...let it be something good."

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Change is Essential; Change is Positive

You must avoid breaking when things don't go your way.

You'll always be secure to the degree that you accept change.

True security comes from being able to bend your insecurities.

When you recognize and accept that change will inevitably take place.

You'll become secure, not by standing still, but by growing, moving, and staying energized.

Be secure in the knowledge that you can deal with anything that happens to you.

Have the courage to bet on your ideas.

Take some calculated risks and act on your dreams.

There is no permanent security on this earth, there is only opportunity.

Change is an essential and positive part of life!

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The Balance Sheet of Life

Our Birth is our Opening Balance

Our Death is our Closing Balance

Our Prejudiced Views are our Liabilities

Our Creative Ideas are our Assets

Heart is our Current Asset

Soul is our Fixed Asset

Brain is our Fixed Deposit

Thinking is our Current Account

Achievements are our Capital

Character & Morals, our Stock-in-Trade

Friends are our General Reserves

Values & Behaviour are our Goodwill

Patience is our Interest Earned

Love is our Dividend

Children are our Bonus Issues

Education is Brands / Patents

Knowledge is our Investment

Experience is our Premium Account

The Aim is to Tally the Balance Sheet of life Accurately.

The Goal is to get the Best Presented Accounts Award.

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The Emotional Bank Account

When it comes to improving and maintaining our relationships with others, Stephen Covey’s metaphor of the Emotional Bank Account is probably one of the most powerful ideas ever created for the development of interpersonal relationships. If you’ve never heard of this, it basically means that anyone with whom we have a relationship with, whether it be our coworkers, family or friends, we maintain a personal “emotional” bank account with them. This account begins on a neutral balance. And just as with any bank account, we can make deposits and withdrawals. However, instead of dealing with units of monetary value, we deal with emotional units.

Withdrawals
Speaking disrespectfully
Putting people down
Acting in rude and discourteous ways

Never saying "I'm sorry" or saying it insincerely

Criticizing, complaining and talking about others in negative ways when they're not around

Never making commitments to anyone, or making commitments and rarely following through

Being quick to take offense
Holding grudges
Throwing people's past mistakes up to them
Nurturing grievances

Deposits
Being kind

Apologizing

Being loyal to those not present

Making and keeping promises

Forgiving

Save today for spending tomorrow :)

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a young man's timeless moment

It had been some time since Jack had seen the old man. College, girls, career, and life itself got in the way. In fact, Jack moved clear across the country in pursuit of his dreams. There, in the rush of his busy life, Jack had little time to think about the past and often no time to spend with his wife and son. He was working on his future, and nothing could stop him.

Over the phone, his mother told him, "Mr. Belser died last night. The funeral is Wednesday." Memories flashed through his mind like an old newsreel as he sat quietly remembering his childhood days.

"Jack, did you hear me?"

"Oh, sorry, Mom. Yes, I heard you. It's been so long since I thought of him. I'm sorry, but I honestly thought he died years ago," Jack said..

"Well, he didn't forget you. Every time I saw him he'd ask how you were doing. He'd reminisce about the many days you spent over 'his side of the fence' as he put it," Mom told him.

"I loved that old house he lived in," Jack said.

"You know, Jack, after your father died, Mr. Belser stepped in to make sure you had a man's influence in your life," she said.

"He's the one who taught me carpentry," he said.

"I wouldn't be in this business if it weren't for him. He spent a lot of time teaching me things he thought were important... Mom, I'll be there for the funeral," Jack said.

As busy as he was, he kept his word. Jack caught the next flight to his hometown.

Mr. Belser's funeral was small and uneventful. He had no children of his own, and most of his relatives had passed away.

The night before he had to return home, Jack and his Mom stopped by to see the old house next door one more time.

Standing in the doorway, Jack paused for a moment. It was like crossing over into another dimension, a leap through space and time.

The house was exactly as he remembered. Every step held memories. Every picture, every piece of furniture....Jack stopped suddenly.

"What's wrong, Jack?" his Mom asked.

"The box is gone," he said.

"What box? " Mom asked.

"There was a small gold box that he kept locked on top of his desk. I must have asked him a thousand times what was inside. All he'd ever tell me was 'the thing I value most,'" Jack said.

It was gone. Everything about the house was exactly how Jack remembered it, except for the box. He figured someone from the Belser family had taken it.

"Now I'll never know what was so valuable to him," Jack said. "I better get some sleep. I have an early flight home, Mom."

It had been about two weeks since Mr. Belser died. Returning home from work one day Jack discovered a note in his mailbox.

"Signature required on a package. No one at home. Please stop by the main post office within the next three days," the note read.

Early the next day Jack retrieved the package. The small box was old and looked like it had been mailed a hundred years ago. The handwriting was difficult to read, but the return address caught
his attention.

"Mr. Harold Belser" it read.

Jack took the box out to his car and ripped open the package. There inside was the gold box and an envelope.

Jack's hands shook as he read the note inside.

"Upon my death, please forward this box and its contents to Jack Bennett.

It's the thing I valued most in my life." A small key was taped to the letter.

His heart racing, as tears filling his eyes, Jack carefully unlocked the box. There inside he found a beautiful gold pocket watch. Running his fingers slowly over the finely etched casing, he unlatched the cover.

Inside he found these words engraved: "Jack, Thanks for your time..! Harold Belser."

"The thing he valued most.. was.. my time . . ."

Jack held the watch for a few minutes, then called his office and cleared his appointments for the next two days.

"Why?" Janet, his assistant asked.

"I need some time to spend with my son..," he said.

"Oh, by the way, Janet.. thanks for your time..!"

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away . . . "

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Adjust To Life

A man and his girlfriend were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations. A wonderful time was had by all.

The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.

A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." she offered.

"Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together."

The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other.They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.

The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists. "I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were

starting to appear in her husbands eyes.

"What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied, "keep reading your list."

The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.

"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily.

Quietly the husband stated, "I don't have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you."

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.

IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them.

We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise.

Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us?

I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST WHEN we see and praise the good and try our best to forget the bad. Nobody's perfect but we can find perfect ness in them to change the way we see them.....

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You Can... You just Can...

This day is not happening to you. It is happening through you.

The way you see the world does not merely affect what you think and feel about all that is going on. The way you see the world determines how the world will be.

Your thoughts are not just momentary flashes that disappear once you are finished with them. They are powerful forces that give energy and direction to life.

The events and situations that come your way are not just random occurrences. There is a reason why you have put yourself in a position to experience them.

The things that are possible are the things that you imagine and expect to be possible. Raise your imagination and your expectations to new levels, and the world follows right along.

This day is happening because you are here to live it. Make it truly grand and exquisitely beautiful, just because you can.

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Peace of Mind

There is enormous power in peace. Seek to let your mind be filled with peace, and your life will benefit greatly.

Worry wastes your precious time, resentment destroys your effectiveness and anxiety drains your energy. A peaceful mind, on the other hand, puts you firmly in control and out of the reach of the world's negative distractions.

Peace comes easily and naturally when you stop fighting against what is. Accept the reality of this moment, let go of the need to need, and experience the peace that is already here.

Peace is what you find when you let go of everything else. Peace requires no real effort other than the realization that you already have it.

Beneath the noise, beneath the chatter, there is beauty, and there is peace. Visualize your concerns as moving quickly away from you, until they disappear into nothingness.

Empty your mind of the stressful thoughts, and peace will fill the space left behind. Be at peace, and every thought, every action, every moment will move you toward real richness and fulfillment.

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Effort is a blessing

Difficult is nothing more than an arbitrary judgment. Effort is effort, and you can do it if you choose.

A great achievement requires much effort. Yet that effort is difficult only when you see it as such.

Instead of obsessing over how difficult or easy it is, just do it. Focus on the result and, what's even more important, your reason for making it happen.

Every effort is a blessing. For effort enables you to live the life you choose to live.

You have the priceless opportunity of being able to do what it takes. Put joy in the effort, whatever it may be, and reap the rewards of making a difference.

Welcome the effort and all the value it gives you the opportunity to create.

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Leave limitations behind

Whatever you think is holding you back is not what is truly holding you back. What's holding you back is your thought that something is holding you back.

Your limitations have precisely the power that you choose to give them. Ignore them and they become irrelevant.

The obstacles do not limit you. Rather, they compel you to be creative and resourceful.

The challenges you face do not limit you. They provide you with an arena in which to create meaningful value.

Is there something you desire that seems impossible? Then you still have work to do in framing and clarifying and connecting with the truth of that desire.

Nothing separates you from your authentic purpose other than your refusal to see it. See it, be it, and leave the limitations behind.

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Smile For A Successful Marriage

If you want to know whether your marriage will survive, look at your spouse's yearbook photos. Psychologists have found that how much people smile in old photographs can predict their later success in marriage.

That’s the conclusion of researchers who claim that kids with the brightest smiles in family photographs are more than three times likely to have a successful marriage than those who frown.

The study found that those with the weakest smiles were more than three times as likely to have been through a divorce. A second experiment, which included pictures taken of people as young as five, backed up the conclusion.

According to scientists, people who are generally happier are therefore more likely to try to work through difficulties in relationships and marriages.

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