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Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Purpose


A purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved.
Kurt Vonnegut (The Sirens of Titan)
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Monday, July 12, 2010

Power of love


Instead of fighting against most of what happens, you can choose to be lifted higher by all that happens. From a perspective of love you'll see the positive possibilities in every situation.
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Sunday, June 20, 2010

Your Task is ...

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Monday, May 10, 2010

Recipe for Love




Add rapport to the batch
Chop carefully the pieces of devotion
Emulse two people and place in fryer
Gradually let it heat
Infuse many upon many sweet and juicy
Kisses, some passionate and some light
Mix the ingredients now
Over once should the mixture be pasteurized
Quickly make an animosity reduction
Stir two hearts until they are forever tangled
Unite the hearts into the mixture and add the two vows
Whisk the two together and then extract
Yeast and replace it with zeal

A recipe for Love
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Sunday, May 2, 2010

do you?


It's easy to get what you want from life. The real difficult and essential work is figuring out what that is.

If you think it might be nice, that's not enough. If it looks good on somebody else, that's not enough.

What you truly want is what you dearly love. It is something that uniquely and elegantly expresses the real, live, passionate person you are.
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Monday, March 15, 2010

Remember


Remember tonight, for it is the beginning of always.

A promise, like a reward for persisting through life so long alone.

A belief in each other and the possibility of love.

A decision to ignore simply rise above the pain in the past.

A covenant, which at once binds two souls and yet severs prior ties.

The celebration of the chance taken and the challenge that lies ahead. For two will always be stronger than one.

Like a team braced against the tempests of the world. And love will always be the guiding force in our lives.

For tonight is mere formality. Only an announcement to the world of feelings long held, promises made long ago…

— in the sacred space in our hearts.

(one tree hill)
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Monday, February 22, 2010

Anthony Robbins Mental Feng Shui-21 Secrets Of Success

1. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

2. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, t heir conversational skills will be as important as any other.

3. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

4. When you say, ‘I love you,’ mean it.

5. When you say, ‘I’m sorry,’ look the person in the eye.

6. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

7. Believe in love at first sight.

8. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don’t have dreams don’t have much.

9. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.

10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

11. Don’t judge people by their relatives.

12. Talk slowly but think quickly.

13. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, ‘Why do you want to know?’

14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

15. Say ‘bless you’ when you hear someone sneeze..

16. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

17. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.

18. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

19. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

20. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

21. Spend some time alone..
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Sunday, February 21, 2010

Dont

"Don’t change: Desire to change is the enemy of love.
Don’t change yourselves: Love yourselves as you are.
Don’t change others: Love all others as they are.
Don’t change the world: It is in God’s hands and he knows.
And if you do that change will occur
Marvellously in its own way and in its own time
Yield to the current of life unencumbered by baggage."


Anthony de Mello
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Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Live in Love

Love can transform your most painful burden into your richest blessing. Stop fighting against what is and begin to love what you know you can be.

Live in love, and you live with power. Live in love, and enable the best within you to know full expression.

Love keeps you focused on what truly matters. Love keeps you going against all odds.

Let go of worry, anxiety, anger and frustration, and love is there. It shines more brightly than ever.

Live in love. And you live in full.
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Saturday, January 9, 2010

Remember

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Thursday, January 7, 2010

Love

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Thursday, October 22, 2009

Dalai Lama on "The Dalai Lama, A Policy of Kindness"

Another kind of love and compassion is not based on something appearing beautiful or nice, but based on the fact that the other person, just like oneself, wants happiness and does not want suffering and indeed has every right to be happy and to overcome suffering. On such a basis, we feel a sense of responsibility, a sense of closeness toward that being. That is true compassion. This is because the compassion is based on reason, notjust on emotional feeling. As a consequence, it does not matter what the other’s attitude is, whether negative, or positive. What matters is that it is a human being, a sentient being that has the experience of pain and pleasure. There is no reason not to feel compassion so long as it is a sentient being.
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Sunday, October 11, 2009

To All Married Couples and Singles Who Intend To Get Married

To All Married Couples and Singles Who Intend To Get Married

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into our bridal room on our wedding day.. She requested that everyday for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy.. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset..

I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.

Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office… jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind… I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won’t divorce.. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other any more.. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: ‘I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart’

The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage.

Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken. We teach some by what we say We teach some more by what we do But we teach most by what we are You don’t get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.

“My opinion may have changed, But not the fact that I am Right”
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Friday, October 2, 2009

Love Again

A friend of mine who I said goodbye to today told me an interesting thing:

In life, you will have three great loves
One you will hate
One you will lose
And one you will spend the rest of your life with

This was tragic, startling and yet... some how comforting.
That even if you hate and lose, you will find love again.
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Sunday, May 10, 2009

The Balance Sheet of Life


Our Birth is our Opening Balance

Our Death is our Closing Balance

Our Prejudiced Views are our Liabilities

Our Creative Ideas are our Assets

Heart is our Current Asset

Soul is our Fixed Asset

Brain is our Fixed Deposit

Thinking is our Current Account

Achievements are our Capital

Character & Morals, our Stock-in-Trade

Friends are our General Reserves

Values & Behaviour are our Goodwill

Patience is our Interest Earned

Love is our Dividend

Children are our Bonus Issues

Education is Brands / Patents

Knowledge is our Investment

Experience is our Premium Account

The Aim is to Tally the Balance Sheet of life Accurately.

The Goal is to get the Best Presented Accounts Award.
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Saturday, May 9, 2009

The Emotional Bank Account

When it comes to improving and maintaining our relationships with others, Stephen Covey’s metaphor of the Emotional Bank Account is probably one of the most powerful ideas ever created for the development of interpersonal relationships. If you’ve never heard of this, it basically means that anyone with whom we have a relationship with, whether it be our coworkers, family or friends, we maintain a personal “emotional” bank account with them. This account begins on a neutral balance. And just as with any bank account, we can make deposits and withdrawals. However, instead of dealing with units of monetary value, we deal with emotional units.

Withdrawals
Speaking disrespectfully
Putting people down
Acting in rude and discourteous ways

Never saying "I'm sorry" or saying it insincerely

Criticizing, complaining and talking about others in negative ways when they're not around

Never making commitments to anyone, or making commitments and rarely following through

Being quick to take offense
Holding grudges
Throwing people's past mistakes up to them
Nurturing grievances

Deposits
Being kind

Apologizing

Being loyal to those not present

Making and keeping promises

Forgiving

Save today for spending tomorrow :)
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Thursday, May 7, 2009

Adjust To Life

A man and his girlfriend were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations. A wonderful time was had by all.

The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.

A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." she offered.

"Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together."

The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other.They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.

The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists. "I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were
starting to appear in her husbands eyes.

"What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied, "keep reading your list."

The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.

"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily.

Quietly the husband stated, "I don't have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you."

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.

IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them.

We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise.

Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us?

I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST WHEN we see and praise the good and try our best to forget the bad. Nobody's perfect but we can find perfect ness in them to change the way we see them.....
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Tuesday, April 21, 2009

the more I have to learn

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year - old grandson.
The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered.

The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor.

When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess.
'We must do something about father,' said the son.
'I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.'

So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner.
There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner.
Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl.

When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone.

Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor.

He asked the child sweetly, 'What are you making?'
Just as sweetly, the boy responded, 'Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.'

The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.

The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless.

Then tears started to stream down their cheeks.

Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table.

For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family.

And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.

I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things:
a rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I've learned that, regardless of your relationship with your parents,
you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.

I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as making a 'life..'

I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.

I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.

I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.

I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.

I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone.

People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.

I've learned that you should share this on to everyone you care about.
I just shared it with you.
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This is to all of you who know what I am trying to say.
I pray for your happiness.
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Monday, April 20, 2009

Open Your Eyes

My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

"Why?" he asked, shocked.

"I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!" I answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?

And finally he asked me: "What can I do to change your mind?"

Somebody said it right... It's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind.

Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"

He said: "I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....

My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but....please allow me to explain the reasons further.....

This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.

You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.

You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand...and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face...

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die ... "

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting. .. and as I continue on reading... "Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...

I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone...

That's LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form ...

Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... AND THAT'S LIFE
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Friday, April 17, 2009

I hope it touches you!

This is a conversation between a girl and a boy on their 7th year anniversary

girl calls up boy: hey happy anniversary again
boy: hi happy anniversary!... hey remember you wanted to tell me something after school? sorry i left so early i had to go to work. so what did you want to tell me?

girl: i wanted to say i love you
boy: yeah i know everyone does!

boy:yeah... everyone of my friends that are girls tell me that everyday
girl: oh... but am i only your friend?

boy: no... you're my girlfriend... why?
girl: so when i say i love you i really do mean it

boy:yeah i know you do mean it...its just that you don't need to tell me that you love me anymore cuz i know you love me since the day we been together and i love you more each and everyday.
girl: ......

boy: so wanna go somewhere tonight for our 7th anniversary?
girl: yeah... where?

boy: i don't know... maybe movie then dinner?
girl: OK

boy:ill pick you up after i get off and get ready OK?
girl: OK. what time do you get off?

boy: in 2 hours and then i gotta go home and yeah get ready which takes about 15-20 minutes...
girl: aye... i thought you didn't have work today...

boy: one of my co-workers called in sick
girl: oh okay! so ill see you around 7:30 then?

boy: yeah! and babe?
girl: yeah?

boy: i love you
girl: i love you too!

boy: ok my manager is like looking at me so yeah.... i gotta go.
girl: ok bye

boy: bye 2 hours later... the boy drives to his girlfriends house boy walks up to the door and rings bell
girl: hey! (gives a kiss to her boyfriend)

boy: wassup... you ready?
girl: um... wait... let me get my bag and we could go ok?

They both watched a movie and ate dinner.... once they were done eating they head back to the car but before she got into the car...
boy: wait! can i blind fold you?

girl: why??!
boy: its a surprise

girl: what kind of suprise?
boy: a big one

girl: okay but only if you promise me that you will hold my hand while we're driving.
boy: i promise.

girl: ok blind fold me... so they drove off........... and then they stoped. boy:ok we're here!
girl: where?

boy:wait let me walk you to the place!
girl: what place?

boy: somewhere! (and gives a kiss to her on the lips)
girl: babe!... the boy walks her to the place ok.... let me take the blind fold off

girl: where are we? he takes it off her and she opens her eyes and sees the view of the city and at that same spot... thats where he first asked her be his girlfriend...
girl: omg.... (tears come down) boy: why are you crying?
girl: this is where you first asked me out...

boy: what are you doing the rest of your life? (he asked on his knees and after he says that...behind him... in the air it says will you marry me?" in fireworks)
girl: (tears come down faster)

boy: i wasn't at work when you called me... i was planning this whole thing!
girl: get up!

boy: yeah?
girl: (kisses him)

boy: is that a yes or a no?
girl: yes
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