Demand respect

There are people who deserve you and people who don’t. If you have someone in your life who takes you for granted or doesn’t give you the respect that you deserve, leave them in the past where they belong. Surround yourself with people who challenge your mind and bring out the best in you. As for the ones who only exist to bring you down or cheapen your potential; let them find people who are better-suited to their own qualities and principles. Hold yourself to the highest standard possible. People who don’t measure up don’t deserve your time. People who can’t see past their own cowardice or their own arrogance don’t deserve your time. Anyone who doesn’t treat you the way you treat yourself doesn’t deserve your time. And if you are treating yourself in a way that gives people permission to take advantage of you, start showing yourself the exact same respect that you should be demanding of everyone else.

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Achieve?

When the reality of your life is in conflict with your most deeply held values and priorities, then nothing is going to work very well. How can you expect to be successful at achieving those things you don't truly even want to achieve?

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Change Within

To bring about a positive change in your world, you must first make that positive change deep within yourself. Life flows from the inside toward the outside.

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vantage point

Conditions change from day to day and year to year, yet there is something you'll always have. You can look at life from your own unique vantage point, decide what must be done, and take effective action.

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Bold if TRUE (know yourself)

I’m loud.
I’m obnoxious.
I’m sarcastic.
I’m cocky.
I cry easily.
I have a bad temper.
For the most part, I don’t like people.
I’m easy to get along with.
I like to fight.
I have more enemies than friends.
I’ve smoked.
I’ve smoked weed.
I drink coffee.
I clean my room daily.

My Appearance
I’m shorter than 5’5.
I wear makeup
I wear a piece of jewelery at all times.
I wear contacts.
I wear glasses.
I’ve had braces.
I have braces.
I change my hair color often.
I straighten my hair often.
My ears are pierced.
I have small feet.

Relationships
I’m in a relationship now.
I’m single.
I’m crushin’.
I’ve missed an ex before.
I’m always scared of being hurt.
An ex has physically abused me at least once.
I’ve told someone I loved them when I didn’t.
I’ve told someone I didn’t love them when I did.
I’ve been in love more than two times.
I believe in love at first sight.
I believe lust is more important than love.

Friendships
I have a best friend.
I have at least ten friends.
I’ve gotten a phone call in the last 48 hours from a friend.
I’ve beaten up a friend. (its normal,love)
I’ve been in a serious fight with a friend.
I can trust at least five people with my life.

Experiences
I’ve been on a train.
I’ve left the state/province.
Someone close to me has died.
I’ve taken a taxi.
I’ve taken a city bus.
I’ve taken a school bus.
I’ve gone bungee jumping.
I’ve made a speech.
I’ve been in some sort of club.
I’ve won an award.
I’ve spent 24 hours on the computer straight.
I’ve been in a physical fight.

Music
I listen to country.
I listen to pop.
I listen to techno.
I listen to rock.
I’m one of those people who play songs repeatedly until I hate it.
I hate the radio.
I download music.
I buy CD’s.

Television
I spend at least six hours a day watching television.
I watch soap operas daily.
I’m in love with Days Of Our Lives.
I’ve seen and like The OC.
I’ve seen and like One Tree Hill.
I’ve seen and like America’s Next Top Model.
I’ve seen and like Popular.
I’ve seen and like House.
I’ve seen and like 24.
I’ve seen and like CSI.
I’ve seen and like Everwood.

Family Life
I get along with both of my parents.
My biological parents are still together.
I have at least one brother.
I have at least one sister.
I have at least one step brother/sister.
I have at least one half brother/sister.
I’ve been kicked out of the house.
I’ve ran away from my home.
I’ve sworn at my parents.
I’ve made my parents cry.
I’ve lied to my parents.
I’ve lied to my parents about where I am.
I’ve lied to my parents about what I’m doing.
I’ve lied to my parents so I’d be allowed out
I’ve walked out when I’ve been grounded.

Hair
I’ve cut my hair in the past year.
I’ve dyed my hair in the past year.
I’ve been blonde.
I’ve had black.
I’ve been red. (very light)
I’ve been light brown.
I’ve been medium brown.
I’ve been brown.
I’ve had streaks.
I’ve had purple/pink.
I’ve been blue/green.
I’ve gotten my hair thinned.
I use conditioner.
I’ve used silk therapy.
I’ve used hot oil treatments.
I’ve curled my hair.
I’ve straightened my hair.
I’ve ironed my hair.
I’ve braided my hair.
I’ve had/want dreadlocks.

School
I’ve thrown something at a teacher.
I’ve yelled at a teacher.
I’ve been suspended.
I’ve had an in-school suspension.
I’ve been sent to the principal’s office.
I’ve walked out of class.
I’ve skipped an entire day of school.
I’ve skipped a whole month of one certain class.
I’ve failed a test.
I’ve cheated on a test.
I’ve helped someone else cheat on a test.
A teacher has called my parents.
I’ve been caught skipping.
I’ve been on the honor roll.
I’ve been on effort honor roll.

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Life Situation

"What you refer to as your “life” should more accurately be called your “life situation.” It is psychological time: past and future. Certain things in the past didn’t go the way you wanted them to go. You are still resisting what happened in the past and now you are resisting what is. Hope is what keeps you going, but hope keeps you focused on the future, and this continued focus perpetuates your denial of the NOW and therefore your unhappiness.
Forget about your life situation for awhile and pay attention to your life. Your life situation exists in time. Your life is NOW. Your life situation is Mind-Stuff. Your life is REAL."

Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now

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Self-Esteem

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Talk To Your Self - The 'I' Is Important

1. A sharp tongue can cut my own throat.

2. If I want my dreams to come true, I mustn’t oversleep.

3. Of all the things I wear, my expression is the most important.

4. The best vitamin for making friends..... B1.

5. The happiness of my life depends on the quality of my thoughts.

6. The heaviest thing I can carry is a grudge.

7. One thing I can give and still keep...is my word.

8. I lie the loudest when I lie to myself.

9. If I lack the courage to start, I have already finished.

10. One thing I can’t recycle is wasted time.

11. Ideas won’t work unless ‘ I ‘ do.

12. My mind is like a parachute...it functions only when open.

13. The 10 commandments are not a multiple choice.

14. The pursuit of happiness is the chase of a lifetime! It is never too late to become what I might have been

‘Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle..’

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Basics

there are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. when we are afraid, we pull back from life. when we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. we need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. if we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.
— john lennon

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Happy??

Counting your blessings isn’t just practice for good arithmetic.

If you want to be happy, start believing you are.

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Feel what it is to be you

Have the courage to feel. Feeling connects you with who you are.

Experience your own authentic feelings. There's nothing to be gained by hiding from your feelings or borrowing the feelings of others.

Your feelings will ask much of you. In return, they give you access to immense power that can be directed toward positive and meaningful purpose.

If you run from your true feelings, you will just end up making them stronger. And they will eventually catch up to you anyway.

Acknowledge your feelings, dive into them and explore their rich abundance. Certainly you will find some pain there, and yet if you are honest you will also find much joy.

Your capacity to feel opens the door to a whole universe of magnificent possibilities. In each moment, feel what it is to be you, and you'll work your way toward the best you can be.

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looking?

Are you always saying that you dont understand someone?

I wonder if we understand our own self because we are complaining so much all the time.

It is the hardest part. Look at the person you see in the mirror.

Let yourself be known to you.

Everything else will fall in place.

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