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Thursday, May 28, 2009

understanding hostility!


The natural reaction to hostility is... hostility. Yet much of the hostility we encounter is due to ignorance and misunderstanding. Often times, when each side develops a better understanding of the other, there is no more cause for anger.

The next time you're confronted with hostility, take the time to explain yourself -- clearly, patiently, sincerely, and without bitterness or sarcasm. And put yourself in the other person's shoes. Endeavor to understand their perspective.

How you react to hostility is up to you. You can escalate the fight to the point where nobody wins. Or, you can seek to give, and to gain, understanding. Understanding serves to cool the anger. It can reveal common grounds for agreement and cooperation.

Yes, there are some people who just want to be angry, no matter what. But there are many others who just want to be understood.

20 inspired and motivated:

Janelle said...

thanks...I needed that today!

Bambola said...

This was SO needed for me, given this weeks events, I'm learning not to react to hostility with hostility, rather so acknowledge that there is something deeper causing the issue.

eye-in-sty-in said...

80-20 rule?
80% of how a situation goes is how you react to anything that happens.

AD said...

jan,
you are most welcome :)

Bambola,
hugsssssssss!!

eye-in-sty-in
you are the wise one :)

The Pink Orchid said...

with this post you really touched a life AD..:D HUGSSSSS!!!

Sophia Ali said...

If everyone takes this seriously..this world will be a much better place to live!!!

eye-in-sty-in said...

wow! you called me wise?!! I need to bookmark this page! ha ha ha

AD said...

you had your doubtS?

eye-in-sty-in said...

No. I was confident I was other"wise" ... ha ha ha
(muah! for making me think in a nutty way...)

AD said...

well maybe you are other wise, but you appeared wise to me.
i hope it aint my fault again :)
i hate being at the faulty edge!
it kinda tumbles!

eye-in-sty-in said...

no no not ur fault at all - I am illuisonary! So I'll take the credit for appearing to be wise. And if you tumble, dont u think I'll reach out for ya ;-)
(Hmmmm so this is how it is... no mention of the kiss I just planted on ur cheek, eh!)

AD said...

oh thanks for that.
i didnt overlook it.
just too hot and sticky to make a mention of it :)

eye-in-sty-in said...

did u just call me a bad kisser! Grrrrrrrrr!!!!!!

AD said...

hot and sticky weather...
ufff!! i seriously dont understand why the grr and ego!

eye-in-sty-in said...

oh the weather, is it! (nice turn around, btw)
Grr was bcoz I dont like to be called a bad kisser. Especially if it was a quick n simple peck on the cheek! Ego? what ego!

AD said...

and obviously you think i m lying!

well well!

hmmm
oki doki!

Thrice said...

Once again...you are right.
You are such an understanding person!!!!!

AD said...

i m learning :)

eye-in-sty-in said...

I give people atleast 3 chances b4 potting them on the chopping block and you still have all ur lifelines intact ;-)

eye-in-sty-in said...

potting... putting... Slippery fingers! oh well....

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