Q of the Day

The world is constantly changing, WHAT POSSIBILITIES DO YOU SEE FOR YOURSELF?

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Creative Living

Creativity is more than just making stuff, and more than just making stuff up. Creativity is expressing, in all sorts of ways that have no limit, what it means to be alive.

You can be creative in such a way that the whole world celebrates your creativity. Or you can be just as creative in ways that only you will ever know.

Being alive is being immersed in an ever-expanding set of possibilities. Being creative is giving your own special meaning and purpose to those possibilities.

Creativity is a special kind of magic. It produces more value than it consumes.

When you are stuck, creativity will move you forward. When the goal seems completely out of reach, creativity will open up a way there.

In all you do, find new ways to be creative. Creativity is one of your most valuable skills, so put its power to work every chance you get.

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Magnified Thoughts

Your thoughts are more powerful than you can ever realize. For there is a part of you that faithfully puts each thought into action without question.

Your thoughts affect every part of you in ways much too numerous to ever keep track of. Each thought sets off a cascade of responses within you that cannot be stopped.

What you think, affects where your life goes. For each thought is magnified and manifested through the whole of your existence.

Positive thinking empowers much more than your thoughts. Negative thinking can dismantle every part of your life.

You always have a choice of what to think. When making that choice, always remember each thought has great power that continues long after the thought has passed from your consciousness.

Though thinking does not make it so, thinking makes you make it so. What you think becomes what you live.

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Be Realistic: There is No Limit to What You Can Do

Sometimes we express a strong desire and the result occurs immediately. We call this a miracle. At other times we strive long and hard without visible progress. The operative word there is "visible". There are too many elements in the world for us to be conscious of how they all interact. But the moment we decide to do what it takes to create a result, the universe bends toward us to assist. This continues unless we do something to stop the process.

That is why I say there is nothing you can't do. There are things that might not be worth doing but almost anything can be done somehow. To do such things requires a certain state of mind. It requires optimism, determination, clarity, love for all mankind and humility. Optimism is the only productive way to think. Not pollyanna blind faith in spite of the facts, just the continuing belief that there is a way and that you will ultimately find it. Determination is to do what is necessary even if it is not convenient, if you are not in the mood, if it takes more than you expected, and if it is not fair, meaning that you have to contribute more than others.

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Problems with Solutions [2]

* Loneliness : The belief that no one loves us, that no one cares and we must desperately cling to anyone who finds us attractive or acceptable . This creates dependency, not intimacy.

The solution
Accurate Self-Assessment : Not everyone will love you, but many people will if they meet you, get to know you, and spend time working/playing along side you.

* Resentment : Holding anger and refusing to move beyond real or imagined mistreatment in the past . Some people spend their whole lives as “victims”, nurturing a terrible event in their past.

The solution
Let go! Life is not fair and people do not always behave well or kindly . Use your trauma to make you wise, kind, gentle, and strong . Holding anger will not work.

* Self-Doubt : The repeated, endless questioning of your own abilities, opinions or actions . The inability to take a stand, to act boldly, or to follow-through.

The solution
Action! Think clearly, then take action and follow-through : Start small, but do it! You are the world’s expert on your life! Use your wisdom to live well.

* Stubbornness : The refusal or inability to re-assess a situation, change your mind, or admit you were wrong.

The solution
Wisdom and Humility : Only a fool stays on a course that is headed for disaster! Search for new and better information, remain flexible, open and creative . When the situation changes, adjust accordingly and set a new course.

* Addiction : Humans become addicted to drugs, but we also become addicted to our jobs, our opinions or our lifestyle . We can be addicted to people and need them rather than love them.

The solution
Take a vacation! Periodically, walk in someone else’s shoes . Break your habits, re-arrange your schedule, delegate those things that only you can do “right” . Use habits and traditions to set you free, don’t let habits enslave you!

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Dont Give Up!

When things go wrong as they sometimes will, When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill, When the funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit, Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns, As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about

When he might have won had he stuck it out; Don’t give up though the pace seems slow— You may succeed with another blow, Success is failure turned inside out—

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far; So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit— It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

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What can you do to Improve your Self Image?

1. List things you like about yourself - include appearance, personality and skills

2. Change negative thoughts to positive ones by focusing on the positive and forgetting the negative things that happen to you

3. Remember compliments and note them down

4. Question whether your view of yourself is accurate. and why you see yourself like you do

5. Make changes that will help you ;for example, clothes, appearance, hair style and behaviour

6. Accept things about yourself that are true and learn to think about them in a positive way

7. Get exercise - you will look and feel better! more about self image and exercise

8. Take yourself less seriously and lighten up!

9. Accept criticism constructively so you can move forward and improve yourself

10. Don’t be limited by your internal image, step outside of it and break free, it doesn’t have to control you or keep you down. Acting differently will change how others respond towards you and will help change your attitude towards yourself and your abilities

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Do as told!

Don’t ever save anything for a special occasion. Being alive is the special occasion!

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Do you have a reaction?

So what is your reaction?

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Apology

Apology is a lovely perfume; it can transform the clumsiest moment into a gracious gift.

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Dalai Lama on "The Dalai Lama, A Policy of Kindness"

Another kind of love and compassion is not based on something appearing beautiful or nice, but based on the fact that the other person, just like oneself, wants happiness and does not want suffering and indeed has every right to be happy and to overcome suffering. On such a basis, we feel a sense of responsibility, a sense of closeness toward that being. That is true compassion. This is because the compassion is based on reason, notjust on emotional feeling. As a consequence, it does not matter what the other’s attitude is, whether negative, or positive. What matters is that it is a human being, a sentient being that has the experience of pain and pleasure. There is no reason not to feel compassion so long as it is a sentient being.

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Book of Life

In the book of life every page has two sides: we human beings fill the upper side with our plans, hopes and wishes, but providence writes on the other side, and what it ordains is seldom our goal.

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Q of the day

Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?

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Best 10 minutes of your day

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Q of the day

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?

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Forgiveness

Forgiveness can be a gift that we give to ourselves.

Here are some easy steps towards forgiveness:

* Acknowledge your own inner pain.
* Express those emotions in non-hurtful ways without yelling or attacking.
* Protect yourself from further victimization.
* Try to understand the point of view and motivations of the person to be forgiven; replace anger with compassion.
* Forgive yourself for your role in the relationship.
* Decide whether to remain in the relationship.
* Perform the overt act of forgiveness verbally or in writing. If the person is dead or unreachable, you can still write down your feelings in letter form.

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Q of the day

Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?

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10 Virtues To Live By And Look For!

I am reposting this cuz no one I saw was touched!

Honesty: Always truthful, Never lies, deceives, steals or takes advantage of the trust of others.
(Opposite: Dishonest, Insincere)

Respectfulness: Treating others and their property with care, honor and respect. Never rude, abusive or malicious.
(Opposite: Disrespectful)

Generosity: Giving to others. Thinking more of someone else’s needs rather than your own.
(Opposite: Greedy, Miser, Scrooge)

Perseverance: To have confidence that you can do what you set out to do and then to finish what you’ve started inspite of adversity.
(Opposite: A Quitter)

Authenticity: To be sincere, genuine, true, and reliable.
(Opposite: Superficial, Fake, Unreliable)

Purity: To have and practice sexual self-control in thought, word and action.
(Opposite: Promiscuous)

Loyalty: A personal commitment to support, protect and defend family, faith, friends, teammates, school, and country (even under pressure).
(Opposite: Unfaithful)

Modesty: To dress, speak and act in ways that promote pure, clean thoughts and actions. Always humble. Never selfishly seeking attention or causing lustful thoughts or sinful actions.
(Opposite: Immodest, Prideful, Crude, Showboating)

Justice: Doing unto others as you would have them do unto you.
(Opposite: Treating Others Unfairly)

Patience: Calmly waiting. Putting up with pain, troubles, difficulties, and hardships without complaining. To wait or persevere without losing heart or becoming bored.
(Opposite: Impatient. I want it Now!)

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Q of the day

When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?

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Tomorrow...

Tomorrow is another day. Tomorrow is another opportunity for hope.

I hope for comfort, strength, and peace upon the victims of the typhoon.

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Q of the day

Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?

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Another Day

Let’s be the sunshine to the people who have been deeply affected by the typhoon. Let’s reach out now by giving what we can.

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Q of the day

If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?

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What is your take?

Everyone has a certain part in their lives where they truly wish they could just freeze time. Whether it was three years ago, today, or still to come. Whether it was just a moment, a whole day, or a whole year. Everyone has a time in their life where they wish everything would just stop. The world would stop turning and people would stop changing, because to them, at that time, everything was perfect.

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Q of the day

In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that?

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Possibility

The moment when you first wake up in the morning is the most wonderful of the twenty-four hours. No matter how weary or dreary you may feel, you possess the certainty that, during the day that lies before you, absolutely anything may happen. And the fact that it practically always doesn’t, matters not a jot. The possibility is always there.

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Do Something!

“Do something for somebody everyday for which you do not get paid.”

— Albert Schweitzer

I think I am... What do you think?

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Funny isnt it?

Change is a funny thing. We never are quite sure what we are becoming or even why. Then one day we look at ourselves and wonder who we are and how we got that way. Only one thing about change remains constant…it is always painful.

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Q of the day

What changes and what doesn't?

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To All Married Couples and Singles Who Intend To Get Married

To All Married Couples and Singles Who Intend To Get Married

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into our bridal room on our wedding day.. She requested that everyday for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy.. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset..

I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.

Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office… jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind… I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won’t divorce.. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other any more.. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: ‘I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart’

The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you, but if you do, you just might save a marriage.

Relationships are made not to exploit, not to be broken. We teach some by what we say We teach some more by what we do But we teach most by what we are You don’t get to choose how you are going to die, or when, but, you can decide how you are going to live, here and now.

“My opinion may have changed, But not the fact that I am Right”

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Q of the day

Do you find it easier to forgive or forget?

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Chance

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Q of the day

The most annoying birthday year?

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People talk

People are always going to talk, so you might as well give them something good to talk about.

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Q of the day

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Mistakes

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Q of the day

Who can you trust with your secrets?
Not that we're implying that you have secrets. But hypothetically, who would you feel safe telling?

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Life...

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Q of the day

What color is your mood ring right now?
What does that color mean?

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I can be

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Q of the Day

There are some days where I wish that I could move to a new city and start my life over again from scratch… a new job, new home, new friends and perhaps a new love…

If you could move anywhere, where would it be and why?

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Hello n Thank You

I am taking today as an excuse to THANK YOU ALL who read me and share your views with me in the form of comments. I have made some really great friends here and thank God we don't demarcate our world on this platform on the basis of caste creed color or country!

Thank you!
I am truly humbled by your attention.
I just hope you keep coming around to me. It makes my day on most days.

Hello to all those new followers and readers who speak a little and stay quiet a lot. I may not know you but since my 'who's reading' widget tells me things, I owe you all a Hello.
Hope all is well.

Have fun and Welcome to my World...

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Inspiration vs. Motivation

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Q of the day

When was the first moment you discovered love?

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The magic instant by Paulo Coelho

We have to take risks. We can only truly understand the miracle of life when we let the unexpected manifest itself.

Every day – together with the sun – God gives us a moment in which it is possible to change everything that makes us unhappy. Every day we try to pretend that we don’t realize that moment, that it doesn’t exist, that today is just the same as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow. But if you pay attention, you can discover the magic instant. It may be hiding at the moment when we put the key in the door in the morning, in the silence right after dinner, in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. This moment exists – a moment when all the strength of the stars passes through us and lets us work miracles.

Happiness is at times a blessing – but usually it’s a conquest. The magic instant helps us to change, drives us forward to seek our dreams. We shall suffer and go through quite a few difficult moments and face many a disappointment – but this is all transitory and inevitable, and eventually we shall feel proud of the marks left behind by the obstacles. In the future we will be able to look back with pride and faith.

Poor are those who are afraid of running risks. Because maybe they are never disappointed, never disillusioned, never suffer like those who have a dream to pursue. But when they look back – for we always look back – they will hear their heart saying: “What did you do with the miracles that God sowed for your days? What did you do with the talent that your Master entrusted to you? You buried it deep in a grave because you were afraid to lose it. So this is your inheritance: the certainty that you have wasted your life.”

Poor are those who hear these words. For then they will believe in miracles, but the magic instants of life will have already passed.

• We must listen to the child that we once were, and who still lives within us. This child understands about magic instants. We can muffle his sobbing, but we can’t hush his voice.
  
  
• If we aren’t reborn, if we don’t see life again with the innocence and enthusiasm of childhood, then there is no more sense to living.
  
  
• There are many ways to commit suicide. Those who try to kill their body offend God’s law. Those who try to kill their soul also offend God’s law, although their crime is less visible to the eyes of man.
  
  
• Let us be heedful of what the child within us has to say. Let’s not feel ashamed of it. Let’s not allow it to feel afraid, because it’s lonely and is scarcely ever heard.
  
  
• Let’s allow the child within us to take the reins of our existence a little. This child says that one day is different from another.
  
  
• Let’s make the child feel loved again. Let’s please this child – even if it means acting in a way that we’re not used to, even if it seems foolish in the eyes of others.
  
  
• Remember that the wisdom of men is madness before God. If we listen to the child we bear in our soul, our eyes will shine once more. If we don’t lose contact with this child, we won’t lose contact with life.
  
  
• Let’s live all the magic instants of 2009!

Love

There is always someone in the world waiting for someone else, whether in the middle of the desert or in the heart of some big city. And when these two people’s paths cross and their eyes meet, the whole of the past and the whole of the future lose all importance, and there only exists that moment and that incredible certainty that everything under the Sun was written by the very same Hand. The Hand that awakens Love and creates a sister soul for everyone who works, rests and seeks treasures under the Sun. Were it not for this, the dreams of the human race would make no sense.

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p.s. I loved the read and I am truly inspired.
I want you to read and suck what is necessary to make something out of life :)

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Q of the day

What's the best mistake you've ever made?

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The Love

The love for equals is a human thing - of friend for friend, brother for brother. It is to love what is loving and lovely. The world smiles.

The love for the less fortunate is a beautiful thing - the love for those who suffer, for those who are poor, the sick, the failures, the unlovely. This is compassion, and it touches the heart of the world.

The love for the more fortunate is a rare thing - to love those who succeed where we fail, to rejoice without envy with those who rejoice, the love of the poor for the rich, of the black man for the white man. The world is always bewildered by its saints.

And then there is the love for the enemy - love for the one who does not love you but mocks, threatens, and inflicts pain. The tortured’s love for the torturer. This is God’s love. It conquers the world.

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— Frederick Buechner, The Magnificent Defeat

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Q of the day

What's the most interesting thing about you?

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Love Again

A friend of mine who I said goodbye to today told me an interesting thing:

In life, you will have three great loves
One you will hate
One you will lose
And one you will spend the rest of your life with

This was tragic, startling and yet... some how comforting.
That even if you hate and lose, you will find love again.

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Q of the day

"Age is nothing but a number." Is that true?

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10 Virtues To Live By And Look For!

Honesty: Always truthful, Never lies, deceives, steals or takes advantage of the trust of others.
(Opposite: Dishonest, Insincere)

Respectfulness: Treating others and their property with care, honor and respect. Never rude, abusive or malicious.
(Opposite: Disrespectful)

Generosity: Giving to others. Thinking more of someone else’s needs rather than your own.
(Opposite: Greedy, Miser, Scrooge)

Perseverance: To have confidence that you can do what you set out to do and then to finish what you’ve started inspite of adversity.
(Opposite: A Quitter)

Authenticity: To be sincere, genuine, true, and reliable.
(Opposite: Superficial, Fake, Unreliable)

Purity: To have and practice sexual self-control in thought, word and action.
(Opposite: Promiscuous)

Loyalty: A personal commitment to support, protect and defend family, faith, friends, teammates, school, and country (even under pressure).
(Opposite: Unfaithful)

Modesty: To dress, speak and act in ways that promote pure, clean thoughts and actions. Always humble. Never selfishly seeking attention or causing lustful thoughts or sinful actions.
(Opposite: Immodest, Prideful, Crude, Showboating)

Justice: Doing unto others as you would have them do unto you.
(Opposite: Treating Others Unfairly)

Patience: Calmly waiting. Putting up with pain, troubles, difficulties, and hardships without complaining. To wait or persevere without losing heart or becoming bored.

(Opposite: Impatient. I want it Now!)

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